Prayers, thoughts, good vibes, spells of healing...

Denny · Post by **Denny** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:17 am

Aw Tyler...you have my thoughts

Caroluna · Post by **Caroluna** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:20 am

I know it's hard, but try not to blame yourself......
I was in a depression support group for a while and heard my
friends talk about-- when they were suicidal-- it was like being
locked in a prison in their own minds, and nothing anyone said
could reach them there.

crookedtune · Post by **crookedtune** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:21 am

You'll be in my thoughts as well. Look forward and be strong.

Post by **Nanohedron** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:41 am

I can't imagine.

emmline · Post by **emmline** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:52 am

I'm so sorry Tyler.

jsluder · Post by **jsluder** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:54 am

Tyler, you have my sincerest sympathy. Good thoughts are headed your way.

izzarina · Post by **izzarina** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 11:02 am

Tyler, I am so very sorry. You will absolutely be in my thoughts and prayers. Please let us know if there is more we can do.

Alan · Post by **Alan** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 2:51 pm

A terrible thing, Tyler.

You are in my thoughts.

A-Musing · Post by **A-Musing** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 3:27 pm

Tyler...what has happened to you, as a result of the suicide, is incredible. This happened to me, years ago. A bright and beautiful young woman took her life. I believe I was the last to see her. We spoke of deep things...serious things...during that last visit. The next day she was gone.

We were in college, and "serious" talks were not uncommon. So, my shock at her death was total. Absolute, grinding, confused amazement!

After a long time of self-anger and grief, at not having detected her real level of despair...I gradually was left with the sheer mystery of it.

Strength to you, and to all involved.

Tyler · Post by **Tyler** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 6:32 pm

Thank you so much, all of you.
There's no way I can express in words right now how grateful I am to you all for the love and support both in this thread and privately.
I feel blessed beyond measure to have friends of such excellent caliber.

There's no obituary yet, however theres a memorial on our Lodge website.
http://www.progresslodge.org

Thank you, everyone, again.

susnfx · Post by **susnfx** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 6:40 pm

So sorry, Tyler. I worked with a man who committed suicide--dreadful indeed. My daughter has never gotten over the suicide of a classmate of hers (he stood on a railroad track and was hit by a train)--in fact, it's one of the reasons she left our church. It's a devastating thing.

Susan

Jennie · Post by **Jennie** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 6:45 pm

Tyler, I'm sorry. What a horrible waste. My thoughts and prayers are with you and with his friends and family.

Jennie

cowtime · Post by **cowtime** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 6:52 pm

I am truly sorry. Mental illness is something my family has delt with and don't be rough on yourself. There's really no way another person can really understand what is going on with someone in that state.

You and your family and friends are in my prayers.

CountryKitty · Post by **CountryKitty** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 7:14 pm

Tyler I am so sorry about your friend.

Don't be too hard on him, or yourself. Depression isn't just a mood problem, it's a brain function disorder--he reached a level of mental dysfunction that most of us can't understand. To take one's own life is so unthinkable to most of us that we wouldn't think of it, nor anticipate it in another. People who are deeply depressed often also feel ashamed that they just aren't functioning like other people, and hide how they are truly struggling from both friends and family.

I feel for him, and for you. My BIL took his lifeyears ago, and I remember the devestating shock of it.

carrie · Post by **carrie** » Thu Mar 08, 2007 7:34 pm

I'm so sorry, Tyler.

Carol