I think the goal should be to to pick up tunes by ear. Straight into the “right brain” skipping the “left brain” and then when you play, having mastered the motor skills to make desired sounds at will, they come straight back out from the “right brain”.
(What’s with all the brain talk? From Wiki - "Linear reasoning and language functions such as grammar and vocabulary often are lateralized to the left hemisphere of the brain. Dyscalculia is a neurological syndrome associated with damage to the left temporo-parietal junction.[3] This syndrome is associated with poor numeric manipulation, poor mental arithmetic skill, and the inability to either understand or apply mathematical concepts.[4]
In contrast, holistic reasoning language functions, such as intonation and accentuation, often are lateralized to the right hemisphere of the brain. Functions such as the transduction of visual and musical stimuli, spatial manipulation, facial perception, and artistic ability seem to be functions of the right hemisphere.")
Now, there are absolutes, but this explains my experience and observations to my satisfaction, so I’m sticking to it until someone supplies a better explanation.
Many of us who have gone through what I recognize as the “normal” education system here in the western world have been trained to use our linear processing abilites. Recite the alphabet. Read this page. Memorize this poem. Spit back the multiplication tables. No surprise we are good at processing lists.
Starting to learn tunes it’s natural to use the skills you have perfected for 20 or 50 years. Read the notes, memorize the list, repeat the list. It sounds like you are repeating a list when most people play at first. Because most people are.
I can tell the difference when I play tunes that I learned by ear vs the ones I memorized from the dots. It feels different to play them. And I bet it sound different to listeners too. This difference slowly goes away, maybe because the right brain learns from listening to the left brain play them.
If your “ears”, which includes the associated hardware and software (thanks s1m0n), need practice before you can learn “by ear” then by all means make the effort. But go ahead and do what you must while you are at it. You have to allow the fun to be had where ever you can.
The best is to have an experienced player teach you the tunes. (Thank you Ian.) Best if they play a fiddle or box so you can’t peek at their fingers. You can use a recording and/or ABC, but later, once you have the ears working a little. It’s too distracting to mess with the keyboard and mouse while you are trying to learn to listen and hear. Which is what it is. Have the person play a phrase and you play it back. Didn’t get it? They will play it slower or a smaller section of it. Whatever it takes. The point being you can concetrate on hearing, not playing with the computer or recording device.
Once you have got to some point which I can’t express, you will be able to hear what is on those recordings with the slow-downer. Then without the slowdowner. Then you will be able to snatch some prases while you are at a session, and only need help for some parts you just can’t hear. And it will keep getting better and better the more you work at it. But it will take time.
Is ITM what it is because it has been passed along aurally, or is it passed along aurally becasue it is what it is? Both I think. Straight into and out of the right brain has got to result in something different than if the stodgy ol’ left brain gets a chance to mess things up. (He ducks.)
I think something that is preserved and passed along by writing will take a different shape from something that is passed along by experience. (Leap of faith here, shoot me if you must.) Look at how people get different things from e-mails or (gasp!) forum posts vs a face-to-face conversation (over a pint is best.) The inflection is missing or missed.
I think ITM suits the aural style, and the aural style suits ITM. Repeat things often (AABBAABBAABB) make little changes to keep the interest up (variations surprise you and keep you listening but the core tune is there to be learned.) So ITM and oral/aural traditions suit each other.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.