original post also wrote:Another reason is that a lot of sessions are dominated by really good musicians who spend a lot of time on their music. Many's the session around the US that really gets rolling around 10 PM on a weeknight -- and if you're a person who holds down a real job, has a family and comes to the music as a hobby, you have to wonder who these people are who can stay out till 2 in the morning playing music. When you get to know them, you'll discover that for one reason or another they don't have a day job or kids or other commitments. Their music is their highest priority. Kudos to them, but don't feel bad if you can't measure up to that standard. If you're lucky, you can find an intermediate session in your area more welcoming to people like yourself. (If not, maybe you should start one!)
I didn't have a chance to respond to this point yet, but I find it strange (and frankly a bit condescending) that a it is implied here that people whose highest priority is the music (professionals, I guess) are unwelcoming. It's not my experience. On the contrary. I go to a clouple of sessions in NYC (where you'll find a lot of top notch musicians playing out) and they are really very welcoming and friendly. I was shy at first (not being a good player by any strech of the imagination) but was actively encouraged by those whose highest priority was the music. One guy said: "Come out and have some tunes. We don't mind having beginners there, as long as they don't want to start every set." Another time I called a professional musician first to ask if it would be okay for me to sit in on a particular session, again I was encouraged to come and "have some tunes." When I got there I found that it was just three professionals who have recorded and who teach at workshops etc., and me. I took they guy I knew to the side and asked whether he was serious that I could join in, knowing that I had little to add to the music, and that I would be happy to just listen. He was almost offended by the suggestion that they would mind having me there. So I sit in the session and listen when I don't know the tunes (many if not most of them), and I join in when I do know the tune. A couple of times a night they'll look at me and say, "so, what have you got?" At which point I start a set. Or if I am feeling bold I'll quietly try out the first few bars of a tune I have floating around in my head and someone will look over and say, "great tune, man, go ahead," and we'll play that one. Also, at times I've seriously messed up, gone out of tune, forgotten the turn of tunes I started, and otherwise imposed mediocrity. It's not that they don't care about the standard of the music (they do) but they also care about enthusiasm for the music and about having a good relaxed friendly time for everyone. In other words: I am seriously trying to learn and to improve, and that's what matters more to them then the occasional flubbed tune.