What’s been said is absolutely true.
But another thing I think is going on with people who have this complaint is subconscious. It may be a fear to do things “wrong”, it may be a feeling that a setting you’ve heard is somehow sacrosanct, it may just be that you have to concentrate too hard just to play it the way you know how and you can’t spare any brain power to do anything else.
So, while you’re listening more and building your vocabulary, here’s some exercises I would suggest:
(NOTE: I am trying to avoid music theory as much as possible in this explanation, so please excuse any stilted language that may result. If you know theory, my apologies.)
- Get the sheet music for any tune you know with the chords. (A good place to start looking is JC’s Tunefinder.) Once you do that, play along with a recording, holding the note named by each chord (so if you see a “G” chord, hold a G for that measure). This is already a variation… you’re basically playing a very boring bass line. Then try playing the first A part like you normally would, then holding the chords for the repeat of the A part. Now switch that. Now play normally for 2 measures and hold chords for 2 measures, then play normally for 2 measures and hold chords for 2 measures, etc. Now trade off every measure. You get the idea.
This exercise will help convince yourself that you can safely play something else that most likely won’t sound bad. You’re giving yourself permission to change things, to experiment. That sounds touchy-feely and maybe boring, but it is an important step.
Now pick a note in, say, the second measure, and change it. It’s probably best to pick a longer note (quarter note or longer) if there is one. Change it at least two notes from what it is (e.g., if it’s an E, don’t change it to an F# or D, change it to a G or a B… this will have a lower chance of sounding bad against the current chord). See how that sounds. If you like it, try changing the next note too, and the next. Or change every other note. You can try this with the chord exercise above, too, by playing the second or fourth note above the written chord.
Try taking a pair of 8th notes, ignore the second note and hold the first as if it were a quarter note. You will hear of people “dropping notes” when a tune gets too fast for them. This exercise is practicing that technique and also helping you find which notes are most important (the “bones” of a tune). Some variations are just taking these bones of the tune, the most important notes, and putting different “connecting” notes in between them. The goal in that case is to keep enough of the rhythm and bones of the tune that it is recognizable.
Here’s a tough but interesting one: take 2 similar tunes in the same key. Play the first measure of one tune then the second measure of the other tune, then the 3rd measure of the one tune, then the 4th measure of the other, etc. Or try every 2 measures. This might not result in anything musically pleasant, but it is kind of fun, and will help teach you about how tunes are put together, and how each measure leads into the next with in a phrase (by seeing what happens when they don’t lead correctly).
If you get comfortable with these exercises, hopefully you will be on your way to experimenting successfully with variation. This is where the listening comes in. If you have enough “vocabulary” won from lots of listening, you will be able to assess your experiments and see if they fit in the “language” you are trying to speak. Try to make up a new word in English. You know “eqpzlitr” does not look like a proper English word, but “beltinger” could be. In the same way you can start judging your variation experiments. Did that change sound like Irish, jazz, or Martian?