OT - Bare Midriff

BrassBlower · Post by **BrassBlower** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 11:52 am

cj wrote:I never had an incredibly flat one with a 6-pack, even in my teens.

I don't have a 6-pack either. Mine's more of a keg!

cj · Post by cj » Tue Mar 16, 2004 12:41 pm

JessieKD wrote:

I'm not concerned about baby weight. I will live a healthy lifestyle and see what happens. Dan knew he wasn't marrying a supermodel.

Congratulations on the young guy, cj! Hee hee. I like my old(er) one.

Thanks! I'm by no means a supermodel either. And I wasn't looking for someone younger; in fact I was wary for that reason. The one I dated before him was 12 years older than I. So I'm not hung up on age, just want someone I can hang with. Susan Sarandon/Tim Robbins, Goldie Hawn/Kurt Russell--they may be onto something!

I digress, but in fact, the whole older woman/younger man thing is getting to be more common. I read about a study of middle-aged singles (aged 40-60), which said that 1/3 of the women in the study were dating men at least 10 years younger! The study went on to say that the most successful relationships were ones in which the two partners had "voltage level" in common--whether you're low-key, high-energy, or somewhere in between, regardless of age.

It's funny to me that the movies seem to often cast men with leading ladies half their age, when in real life it's not quite that common and the older woman/younger man thing is getting more so. (Most people still end up with someone near their age). Of course, in the movies, women are put out to pasture past about 40, but in real life, our lives actually go on after that. In fact, we even have full lives complete with fun and even romance.

Amazingly, even if we don't look like Britney Spears or Shania Twain, we manage to persevere!

OK, that's enough of my diatribe on middle-aged dating habits, Hollywood, life and the universe . . .

JessieK · Post by **JessieK** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 12:47 pm

With life expectancy (women generally live longer than men), a woman going for a younger man (in a good marriage) is a smart thing! When I am 50, Dan will be 68. I should stop feeding him such rich food. I want him to know our grandchildren.

cj · Post by cj » Tue Mar 16, 2004 12:54 pm

Dan sure doesn't look his age, at least from what I saw of the pictures y'all have posted!

JessieK · Post by **JessieK** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 1:08 pm

Yeah, he looks at least 10 years younger than he is (maybe even 15). He was a late bloomer. He has some habits he should have unlearned by second grade and certain areas of total disorganization, but he also has a very strong sense of responsibility when it comes to the really important things. Because he was 45 when he met me (and he'd spent a long time thinking he wouldn't find someone he could share a life with), he is all the more appreciative of what we have together. This is his first marriage and will be his first child.

jbarter · Post by **jbarter** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 1:10 pm

Dammit Jessie, you should have said you didn't mind older men years ago. The queue would have been a mile long.

JessieK · Post by **JessieK** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 1:20 pm

Funny. I was always open about liking older men. My ex was almost 29 years older than I. I'm STILL not half his age.

brewerpaul · Post by **brewerpaul** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 2:52 pm

JessieK wrote:Ok, so I'm no Shania Twain.

<img src=http://home.hvc.rr.com/kislindriscoll/midriff.JPG>

(I just feel like sharing.)

You gone and done it!
Man, I'll bet ya Feel Like a Woman!

(references to Twain tunes, in case anyone doesn't recognize them)

The Weekenders · Post by **The Weekenders** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 2:53 pm

So you followed the Weekender's tip, eh (i.e. a memorable snapshot of the Vertical Volkswagen)? WELL DONE!!!

HDSarah · Post by **HDSarah** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 10:29 pm

missy wrote:Sweety - you aren't BIG yet - you still have a belly button. I knew it was hopeless when my belly button disappeared!!!

Missy

Mine didn't disappear, it popped OUT.

And a belly button that's been an ''inny'' for nearly 30 years is very tender when it starts to stick out -- I remember putting a bandaid over it to try to alleviate the soreness my clothes caused by chafing against it. I had forgotten that until now!

One of the many little discomforts of pregnancy, but a healthy full-term baby is well worth it.

Sarah

ErikT · Post by **ErikT** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 11:00 pm

Julie looked at her belly the other day and it had popped out! She said, "It wasn't like that this morning!" It's new for this pregnancy... it hadn't happened before. Maybe you two can get together and exchange bandaide hints

Darwin · Post by **Darwin** » Wed Mar 17, 2004 1:57 am

cj wrote:I digress, but in fact, the whole older woman/younger man thing is getting to be more common. I read about a study of middle-aged singles (aged 40-60), which said that 1/3 of the women in the study were dating men at least 10 years younger! The study went on to say that the most successful relationships were ones in which the two partners had "voltage level" in common--whether you're low-key, high-energy, or somewhere in between, regardless of age.

My wife is 6.5 years older'n me, and we've been married for 37 years.

Of course, we've never really gotten along.

tomcat · Post by **tomcat** » Wed Mar 17, 2004 9:12 am

my wife and i had the same due date! i was born two weeks early, she two weeks late; so we are a month apart, to the day. what makes it even stranger is that we had the same doctor deliver us; and even stranger, our moms car-pooled together for their pre-natal appointments; and stranger still - we lived across the street from each other until we were both three years old. then her family moved out of state. we didn't see each other until we enrolled at the same college. the rest is history. we've been married now for 27 years. hasn't always been easy, but i wouldn't trade for a day.

i do remember the three times her tummy looked like yours jessie, and the joy it brings. fun stuff.

burnsbyrne · Post by **burnsbyrne** » Wed Mar 17, 2004 10:34 am

My wife is four years older than I. When you are 22 that seems like a big difference but when you're in the mid-fifties, as we are now, four years are insignificant.

Jessie,
I still remember the feeling of anticipation and anxiety of those last few months. I got to relive it vicariously when my granddaughter was born four years ago. In hindsight, I wonder how our boys, now men both 6'3", turned out as well as they did. It's a great journey. Bon voyage.
Mike

JessieK · Post by **JessieK** » Wed Mar 17, 2004 11:02 am

Yeah, speaking of the worry and anticipation of the last leg, I am getting lazy in healthy eating, mostly because I am getting lazy in cleaning snow off of the car so I can go shopping. I shop and eat well, cooking good meals with vegetables and meat and all and then I run out and start eating easy packaged foods. Dan is so busy (he gets up at 4AM and commutes to NYC and gets home around 7PM usually), so I feel guilty asking him to go grocery shopping. I always plan to do it tomorrow, and then the next tomorrow. Pregnancy does make one less able to gather up the energy to do normal things. Tomorrow my mom is coming to visit, so I will ask her to go grocery shopping for me on her way here.

My belly button is a little less deep than it was before pregnancy, but as you can see, it's still an inny.

As for age difference, Dan and I don't feel it at all, because we are in the same place in our lives. I just hope he lives a really long time.

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