Devondancer update

peeplj · Post by **peeplj** » Tue Oct 07, 2008 4:00 pm

devondancer wrote:Easier said than done, Cork. Once she is home she is my responsibility, and if you saw her at the moment I think you might feel the same. How on earth do I care for my beloved wife well enough to help her get better? I know the "one day at a time" bit, but it is terrifying.
Roland

Yes, it's terrifying.

I think you'll find that once she's home, you'll be too busy to have time to think about how frightening it all is.

You've got to learn to trust yourself...from what I see, you've earned that trust over and over again through this. You will suffice; what needs doing, you'll do, to help her heal.

As always, warmest healing thoughts to the both of you.

--James

devondancer · Post by **devondancer** » Tue Oct 07, 2008 4:20 pm

Thank you. I feel better now I have eaten, and will be better still in the morning. Night can be dark. As we have done before, we will both do what we have to do, because there is nothing else we can do. I just want her home.
Ro

Cork · Post by **Cork** » Tue Oct 07, 2008 6:13 pm

I certainly can understand, and do appreciate, your sense of responsibility, and that your efforts could be central to her survival!

You have every reason to be terrified. Apparently Lesley is in rough shape, yet I also suspect that she is making every effort to pull through.

Apparently hospital could be of the view that rest could be the best thing for her, and that seems to make sense, frankly.

So, perhaps this could be a good time just to let her rest.

That, BTW, is not your responsibility. It's something for her to do, all on her own.

She'll manage it, no doubt.

aderyn_du · Post by **aderyn_du** » Tue Oct 07, 2008 6:19 pm

When you're without your partner in life, nighttime is always the hardest... when things seem most deep, most dark.

Keep reaching out to us here on the board. Given the varied locations and varied schedules, there will always be someone here. You and Lesley have a lot of love, and a lot of energy pouring out towards you both. You don't always have to keep a brave face; you have friends here when it all gets too dark to bear.

Blessings of strength to you...

devondancer · Post by **devondancer** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 3:43 am

Lesley's heart failed badly over night but a miracle seems to be happening. She has been on the transplant list and last night a suitable heart became available. She is having the surgery today and I shall be staying there until she is stable, so will not be posting. I will update you as soon as I come home again.
Please pray for her as this is now her only chance, and may give her back a useful life.
Thank you all for your support, my friends.
Roland

mukade · Post by **mukade** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 4:27 am

I hope the surgery is a success.
You both deserve a break.

Positive thoughts heading your way.

Mukade

devondancer · Post by **devondancer** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 5:50 am

Got my facts slightly awry in my panic! We are being flown by helicopter to a specialist hospital in Cambridge at 1500 today, for Lesley to have surgery tomorrow, we hope. I will be accommodated in a flat there and am collecting belongings now. Can take the laptop so will be able to make use of you all! Don't know how long we will be away, but quite a while I think, if all goes well.
I will keep in touch.
Roland

Cork · Post by **Cork** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 6:12 am

As a long time believer in the power of positive thinking, I've been very concerned about Lesley's circumstances, and yours, too, Ro.

It's a great disappointment to hear that Lesley has had such a serious setback, but I'm not going to give up on positive thinking.

My best wishes, to both of you!

djm · Post by **djm** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 6:41 am

Wow! What a roller coaster ride this thread is!

djm

missy · Post by **missy** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 7:43 am

please keep us updated - I'll be offering prayers that all goes well.

anniemcu · Post by **anniemcu** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:37 am

May she come through with flying colors!

My heart and prayers are with you.

susnfx · Post by **susnfx** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:41 am

Thinking of you both, Roland.

Susan

gregdidge · Post by **gregdidge** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:06 am

Roland and Lesley, More prayers are being said for you and your doctors and nurses. Roland keep us updated when you can.
I'm glad that she has a transplant available.
Give Lesley my love.

Innocent Bystander · Post by **Innocent Bystander** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:54 am

Good Luck, Lesley and Roland!

Martin Milner · Post by **Martin Milner** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:57 am

Thinking of you both.