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Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:20 am

My 21 year relationship with my wife has come to a sudden and abrupt end. This is a terrible thing. What makes it worse is that she decided on this while I am away from my home in Florida and that leaves me stranded Minnesota.

As a result of all this messy business, I will be unable to accept reed or cane orders until such time as I can get my ass back down to Florida, find a home and settle in.

I am posting this here because I want to reach all who have contacted me, and who may visit this forum, about reeds during the past two months to let them, and future clients know that my operation is temporarily at a standstill. I( have no clue when it will start up again but I will do my best to expediate the matter and post here when I am up and running again.

Thank you for your patience.

MarcusR · Post by **MarcusR** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:18 am

Sad to hear this Joseph!

I think I know how you feel as I went through the same thing 2 years ago after spending close to 20 years together (we met very young). Things like this are very tough to deal with, especially if you are the part that didn’t see it coming.

But in the darkest of moments I use to cheer my self up with a dark humorous thought that “ a fair bit of suffering was what I needed to become a very good piper”

There are no short cuts, no optimal solution to find and it will take time, but it can still end on a good note for both of you, no matter the outcome.

We separated, went through with the divorce, got on with our lives, found ourselves and then each other after
a year semi-apart. We are now happily married again and our relationship feels stronger and better than ever before.

I hope things work out the way You want it to Joseph.

Take care!

/MarcusR

Flogging Jason · Post by **Flogging Jason** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 11:32 am

I'm so sorry Joe. 20+ years is one hell of an invesment to have go down the crapper. My heart goes out to you and I pray that the stabilization of your life comes smoothly.

Best wishes,

Jason

djm · Post by **djm** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 11:51 am

Party Feckin' Time!!!

Now, go and be a piper.

djm

Davy Stephenson · Post by **Davy Stephenson** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 2:31 pm

Hello there big fella, sorry to hear of your situation, chin up and all that.

Joseph you are welcome to come stay with us for a while, maybe it will get your pipe making career off the ground, I do hope you get your G chanter when you get back to Florida.

Best wishes

Davy.

maze · Post by **maze** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 4:54 pm

Joe,

Again, so very sorry that you have joined the ranks to which I joined of late... and you would think that I would have been playing the hell out of the pipes after my separation and then divorce over the past year and then some... but no - the emotions and legal bs gets in the way.

Hang in there my friend... we should start a(n) Uilleann Piper Divorce Support Group as i suspect the pipes themselves lead to more than one separation (mine partially included)...

Go UPDSG!!!!

Seriously, my heart goes out to you. At least you do not have kids to fight for, or in my case, to fight to remain in their lives.... thanks to bitter ex-spouses.

Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 5:48 pm

maze wrote: At least you do not have kids to fight for, or in my case, to fight to remain in their lives.... thanks to bitter ex-spouses.

Just a Bull Terrier who is as precious to me as a son.

Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 6:38 pm

Davy Stephenson wrote:
Joseph you are welcome to come stay with us for a while, maybe it will get your pipe making career off the ground, I do hope you get your G chanter when you get back to Florida.

Best wishes

Davy.

I am going to make it over there some day Davy... just have to get all of my ducks in the same pond first. Thank you.

liestman · Post by **liestman** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 6:48 pm

All my best wishes go to you Joseph. Been there years ago, so I kinda know the feelings.

fancypiper · Post by **fancypiper** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 7:09 pm

I'm praying for you.

I can certainly understand as my ex left me after 21 years too, but I had two boys to worry over as well.

The stress of losing my job and finding out her plans about leaving me on the same day triggered my Crohn's disease (which is still plaguing me) as well.

All the best.

snoogie · Post by **snoogie** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:25 pm

Joseph, sorry to hear the news..very sad. You are welcome to stop in on your way to FL. I'd love to have you visit and have a few tunes.

Best of luck.

-g

feadogin · Post by **feadogin** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:37 pm

Sorry to hear that Joseph. Hope you get through it all ok.

Justine

jasonkill · Post by **jasonkill** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:38 pm

That's a heavy blow. Hang in there, Joseph.

anniemcu · Post by **anniemcu** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:31 pm

Damn!

Not good!... but hopefully it will turn out for the best (whatever the heck that happens to turn out to be).

Get your head on straight, my friend, and decide what *you* want now. Look at your own contribution to whatever happened and be honest with yourself about what was your fault and what was not, and learn those lessons, then get on about getting on with your own life.

Remember - Every cloud has a silver lining... especially if you remember to carry your own can of spray paint!

misterpatrick · Post by **misterpatrick** » Wed Oct 03, 2007 11:52 pm

All the best Joe and you know the Minnesota pipers are here for you. Let's share some tunes while you're here.

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