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pipersgrip · Post by **pipersgrip** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 6:40 pm

i saw a monster video that cranberry posted, so i thought that i would post this one.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fVDGu82 ... ed&search= that is cute and funny to.

pipersgrip · Post by **pipersgrip** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 6:43 pm

i died laughing at this one too. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-4tcUHCYV4&NR=1

Cynth · Post by **Cynth** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 7:05 pm

I don't know about the first one---just sort of strange.

I didn't think the second one was funny. I understand the idea of being afraid of one's shadow being funny, but when a child is clearly terrified you should help the child, not keep laughing and making a video. Even if the parents didn't understand right at the moment what was frightening the child so badly, they should have run and picked her up. It seemed cruel and sickening to me.

I could hear the audience laughing in the background. I honestly don't know what this world is coming to. I have to say that I find some of these things I've been seeing to be very, very upsetting. I just don't know what is going on. I suppose these things always happened but I just never saw them happen and now I do because videos made by all sorts of people are available.

pipersgrip · Post by **pipersgrip** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 7:10 pm

i am a pre school teacher, and i still think this is funny. something like this wont scar a child for life. later on that little girl will be so glad that her parents caught that on tape. it's not bad at all to laugh at that, it truly is funny. but i can see where you would be a little offended by that.

anniemcu · Post by **anniemcu** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 7:41 pm

The Whistle Collector wrote:i am a pre school teacher, and i still think this is funny. something like this wont scar a child for life. later on that little girl will be so glad that her parents caught that on tape. it's not bad at all to laugh at that, it truly is funny. but i can see where you would be a little offended by that.

I disagree. Laughing at a child, especially a child who is terrified, is *not* funny. Perhaps later the child will see the humor in it, but I wouldn't count on it. Having people laugh *at* you is not a good formative experience.

djm · Post by **djm** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 7:54 pm

I disagree entirely. Mooing over a child is entirely wrong, leaving them petulant and constantly demanding attention. A thorough scoffing is just the ticket to set them straight and stop whinging all the time. Once they get used to reading the signs, children become adept at sensing what is worthy of their parents attention, and what is so stupid that it will come back to haunt them in years to come in home movies.

djm

pipersgrip · Post by **pipersgrip** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 8:19 pm

anniemcu wrote:
The Whistle Collector wrote:i am a pre school teacher, and i still think this is funny. something like this wont scar a child for life. later on that little girl will be so glad that her parents caught that on tape. it's not bad at all to laugh at that, it truly is funny. but i can see where you would be a little offended by that.
I disagree. Laughing at a child, especially a child who is terrified, is *not* funny. Perhaps later the child will see the humor in it, but I wouldn't count on it. Having people laugh *at* you is not a good formative experience.

well if you laugh at a child, you are teaching the child it is a light matter, and soon they will laugh it off too. but, if you rush to a child's cry every time they get scared, they will be a scared little whiner expecting you to be there every time they cry. i have been working with and studying children for years, and humor is the best way to calm a child's fears in my experience.

Cynth · Post by **Cynth** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 9:45 pm

djm wrote:I disagree entirely. Mooing over a child is entirely wrong, leaving them petulant and constantly demanding attention. A thorough scoffing is just the ticket to set them straight and stop whinging all the time. Once they get used to reading the signs, children become adept at sensing what is worthy of their parents attention, and what is so stupid that it will come back to haunt them in years to come in home movies.

djm

Well shoot, djm, see if I moo over you anymore

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It is one thing to use humor in comforting or trying to distract an upset child but to laugh at a child, or anyone, who is frightened is to show a lack of empathy and as annie points out, I wouldn't count on that child having good memories of that situation in the future.

Carl Rogers wrote:To perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings which pertain thereto as if one were the person, but without ever losing the "as if" condition. Thus, it means to sense the hurt or the pleasure of another as he senses it and to perceive the causes thereof as he perceives them, but without ever losing the recognition that it is as if I were hurt or pleased and so forth

The people who made that video and who think it is funny are not able to put themselves in the position of the little girl. How would you feel if you were that little girl? You should be feeling her fear as if you were in her situation and that feeling should prompt you to help her, not to laugh at her. Once you pick her up, sure, some humor (which is different than laughing at someone, which might be funny for you but is not funny for the other person), if it seems to be calming her down, might help. But for the protectors of a child, and she was a very, very young child, to just stand there and laugh when she is clearly terrified is to completely betray that child's trust. It is also to teach that child not to feel empathy for others.

This lack of empathy is what makes people able to tolerate or to carry out bad actions against others because they are not able to put themselves in the other person's position. Empathy has to be taught. We learn it by example. Most of us are born with the capacity to empathize with others, but if we do not have an example set for us by those who raise us I don't believe most of us will learn it on our own. Lack of empathy for others is, in my opinion, one of the most serious problems in the world today. Just my opinion, of course.

I think children who whine a lot have not received enough attention myself. That is why they are whining. When they get enough, they go out and have fun.

Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 5:55 am

I think that with a little basil, oregano, rosemary and a light sprinkle of tumeric and then paired with a nice chianti, most children are tolerable.

Tyler · Post by **Tyler** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 5:57 am

Don't forget the fava beans!

Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 6:32 am

Tyler Morris wrote:Don't forget the fava beans!

I didn't, but I find that small children have enough gas as it is.

izzarina · Post by **izzarina** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 7:01 am

Joseph E. Smith wrote:I think that with a little basil, oregano, rosemary and a light sprinkle of tumeric and then paired with a nice chianti, most children are tolerable.

You clearly don't know my children then. Chianti doesn't do it...more like a fifth of whiskey. And they're not too fond of the tumeric either. It makes them sneeze.

I.D.10-t · Post by **I.D.10-t** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 8:29 am

izzarina wrote:And they're not too fond of the tumeric either. It makes them sneeze.

From the Duchess’s child raising handbook.

Alice's Adventures in Wonderland wrote:`Speak roughly to your little boy,
And beat him when he sneezes:
He only does it to annoy,
Because he knows it teases.'

`I speak severely to my boy,
I beat him when he sneezes;
For he can thoroughly enjoy
The pepper when he pleases!'

amar · Post by **amar** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 9:16 am

Tyler Morris wrote:Don't forget the fava beans!

ftftftftftftft....

harpmaker · Post by **harpmaker** » Wed Apr 18, 2007 11:05 am

Too much attention can also be a bad thing for a child. I have seen many children take a spill or startled and then quickly look at mommy or daddy to check and see if they are watching. If a parent is rushing in to comfort the cries start. Otherwise, many times the child just gets up and continues on.

The parent is often reinforcing the fear.....