hmmm, this reminds me of a saying that applies to the realm of romance and dating. Perhaps there is some overlap. It goes: "always give a woman what she needs, but never necessary what she wants." So let's say i meet a super attractive woman at a bar. There is a good chance she wants and expects you be blown over by her beauty. So I go up to her and say "Hey, how are you? Wow, you look great. But I don't know, those earings really don't work on you." So i give her what she needs: respectful attention. But not what she wants: to be worshiped for her looks. And it strike me that it is a moral duty NOT to give her exactly what she wants because for to do otherwise would mean that i'm just a lame-o sycophantic putz, the kind of guy women generally end up hating anyway despite the attention they get out of it.
Just thinking out loud here, Harry. But I think you're onto something...
"I consider it my moral duty..."
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No, what she's really asking herself is "Does he WANT me to throw my beer in his face, or does he really NEED me to?"feadog39 wrote:hmmm, this reminds me of a saying that applies to the realm of romance and dating. Perhaps there is some overlap. It goes: "always give a woman what she needs, but never necessary what she wants." So let's say i meet a super attractive woman at a bar. There is a good chance she wants and expects you be blown over by her beauty. So I go up to her and say "Hey, how are you? Wow, you look great. But I don't know, those earings really don't work on you." So i give her what she needs: respectful attention. But not what she wants: to be worshiped for her looks. And it strike me that it is a moral duty NOT to give her exactly what she wants because for to do otherwise would mean that i'm just a lame-o sycophantic putz, the kind of guy women generally end up hating anyway despite the attention they get out of it.
Just thinking out loud here, Harry. But I think you're onto something...
Deja Fu: The sense that somewhere, somehow, you've been kicked in the head exactly like this before.
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Amen! Or, as a wise and wry acquaintance said recently ....Harry wrote: I, of course, developed mine through years of rigourous religious training with a well swung metre rule. Oh, Sweet Education: distroyer of hopes, bringer of mediocrity.
'I was beaten with bamboo canes and leather straps until my hands bled. .... The main reason for the beatings was my inability to speak, read or write in the Irish language. .... I was taught by Nuns so I knew a lot about religion but that did not count for much in Holy Ireland.
I'm now reasonably fluent in Irish and a confirmed atheist.'
Harry wrote:FWIW= 2800 Euros, abstractly speaking.
Strictly abstractly, of course. You are a funny man.
Deja Fu: The sense that somewhere, somehow, you've been kicked in the head exactly like this before.
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There you go, that's the spirit. Although your percentages might improve if, instead of picking on her earrings, you were to whisper to her that her equally beautiful friend (who just happened to be sitting on the barstool next to her) didn't look good enough for her ....feadog39 wrote:touche. wouldn't be the first time.Cathy Wilde wrote:No, what she's really asking herself is "Does he WANT me to throw my beer in his face, or does he really NEED me to?"
ya win some and ya lose some...
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I don't know, Cathy, i think you might be increasing my chances of experiencing "Deja Fu"Cathy Wilde wrote: There you go, that's the spirit. Although your percentages might improve if, instead of picking on her earrings, you were to whisper to her that her equally beautiful friend (who just happened to be sitting on the barstool next to her) didn't look good enough for her ....
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'bout doubled 'em, eh?feadog39 wrote:I don't know, Cathy, i think you might be increasing my chances of experiencing "Deja Fu"Cathy Wilde wrote: There you go, that's the spirit. Although your percentages might improve if, instead of picking on her earrings, you were to whisper to her that her equally beautiful friend (who just happened to be sitting on the barstool next to her) didn't look good enough for her ....
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You wound me. Not locked, but moved. The milk of human kindness in me is pasteurised and fresh. Not gamma-rayed, though.Cathy Wilde wrote:Heh-heh, good one guys.
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