Dude, I speak from personal experience. Women respond to confidence (as opposed to arrogance). A note does not give off the aura of confidence.amar wrote:hmmm, I'll see if I can find the guts and ask her on Friday.
I used to be painfully shy. I forced myself to get over it.
The cheesy pickup line sometimes works if she thinks it's funny, but the odds are, she'll just think it's cheesy, so go with the sane approach. Go up to her, and just talk to her...don't worry about asking her out. Just talk about something mundane, like the traffic or something. Keep it light--for instance, don't start bitching about how they need to fix the goddamn turn signals at the interchange or whatever. Unless she's in a hurry, upset, or just doesn't like you, you should find some common ground to talk about...you can then practice a little "sharing". I know this is hard for guys. Tell her a little about what you like to do, what kind of neat things there are to do around where you live, etc. Listen to her when she talks about the things she likes, and show you're paying attention by asking questions or using what she's said to further the conversation.
You might find out that she's not that interesting, or she's married, or she doesn't seem to like you. But, barring all of that, if she seems nice, and seems kind of receptive, then you can ask her out. Or maybe wait until you've talked to her a couple more times. Once you've gotten relaxed in the conversation, it'll be a lot easier. Trust me. For instance, once you've talked about the kinds of movies you both like, it's a lot easier to say something like "hey, the new Harry Potter's opening soon...think you might want to go see it with me? My treat.." (by now, you should know if she likes harry potter or not..heh )
Then again, I picked up a couple of women last St. Paddy's Day by walking straight up to them carrying a couple of glasses and asking "Hey..do either one of you ladies like vodka?"