guys,what would you do(girls,what do you think I should do?)

amar · Post by **amar** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 10:51 am

Started on a new ward, I'll be on this ward for only this week, there's this nice -girl-woman-lady-female-(trying to be politically correct, so take your pick) that works on the ward.

I'd like to get to know her better.

Should I:
ask her straight out for a drink? (I'm actually too sh*t to do that)
write her a note and see to it she gets it next monday? (which is actually my plan).

Further suggestions are welcome.

Redwolf · Post by **Redwolf** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:01 am

amar wrote:Started on a new ward, I'll be on this ward for only this week, there's this nice -girl-woman-lady-female-(trying to be politically correct, so take your pick) that works on the ward.

I'd like to get to know her better.

Should I:
ask her straight out for a drink? (I'm actually too sh*t to do that)
write her a note and see to it she gets it next monday? (which is actually my plan).

Further suggestions are welcome.

Do you know if she's unattached?

If it were me, I'd prefer the direct approach. I'm never quite sure how to respond to a note, especially if there are circumstances (such as the fact that I'm already attached) which could be more gently delivered in person.

But that's just me. I haven't dated in more than 25 years, and even then it was more a matter of going out with a guy who was as much a friend as anything else, so I've no experience with being asked out by people who are essentially strangers to me.

Redwolf

jsluder · Post by **jsluder** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:10 am

amar wrote:write her a note and see to it she gets it next monday? (which is actually my plan).

A note like this one?

Dear Roxanne, how is it going?
Do you want to have a drink sometime?
If you do, check this box: []

The quote is from the movie Roxanne, starring Steve Martin.

fyffer · Post by **fyffer** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:12 am

I'm the chickens**t type as well, but you just gotta get over yourself.
If you don't ask her out, you'll regret it (especially if someone else beats you to it) and if you do, and find out she's attached, or at worst, just not interested, you've really lost nothing - except now she knows you're interested. However, occasionally this can work in your favor, as this could be just the seed necessary to get her to look in your direction.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

(All this coming from one who hasn't asked a woman/girl/female out for more than 15 years as well)

Don't send a note. It's way too pre-pubescent.

take it or leave it,
Chris

lixnaw · Post by **lixnaw** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:12 am

amar, you haven't got a hope with yer note and your dribbling doctors writing

pull out yer low D when she's having a break, and if she likes it, ask her if she plays anything.

Wombat · Post by **Wombat** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:15 am

Why not get talking and see if it goes well? You might also find out if she's otherwise attached.

Failing that, why not ask her, but on the last day you work there to save embarrassment if she says no (or yes, for that matter.

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Charlene · Post by **Charlene** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:17 am

Do you have the same lunch hour? Talk to her over lunch at work, then you have a time limit so if something goes sour you can say "sorry, have to get back to work." Find out if she's available. She may be married, or living with someone, or just not interested in men.

Why would such a good-looking guy as yourself be chicken****? You're cute. If I was 30 years younger and single, (and in the same country) I'd be interested.

Hope it works out for you.

Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:18 am

I would go the route of asking her in person whether she would like to go out for cocktails and take it from there.

I have always been of the opinion that the direct and honest approach is best, and shows a certain amount of respect... so, "man-up" buckko and ask her out.

Having said that, I freely admit that my wife was the one who stalked me inexhaustably until I finally noticed (keen observer though I am

) and fell for her womanly charms.

jim stone · Post by **jim stone** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:40 am

There is no right way. It's a wonder the species
evolved.

amar · Post by **amar** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:42 am

hmmm, I'll see if I can find the guts and ask her on Friday.

brewerpaul · Post by **brewerpaul** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:47 am

I agree with those who say you should try to talk to this person a bit first (if you haven't already). See if it feels right. If so, then just ask. Maybe not for drinks since not everyone indulges. You might ask about going for coffee and snacks. Good luck-- you seem like a good man, and will do just fine.

djm · Post by **djm** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:50 am

Don't be a wuss. Women appreciate a man who is forthright, honest, and open about what he wants. Find a spare bed in the new ward, grab her by the hair, and drag her kicking and screaming. Have your way with her.

Hmmm, on second thought .....

djm

jsluder · Post by **jsluder** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 12:01 pm

Just be yourself, Amar...

amar · Post by **amar** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 12:02 pm

jsluder wrote:Just be yourself, Amar...

not sure about that..

amar · Post by **amar** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 12:08 pm

Charlene wrote:Do you have the same lunch hour? Talk to her over lunch at work, then you have a time limit so if something goes sour you can say "sorry, have to get back to work." Find out if she's available. She may be married, or living with someone, or just not interested in men.

Why would such a good-looking guy as yourself be chicken****? You're cute. If I was 30 years younger and single, (and in the same country) I'd be interested.

Hope it works out for you.

why thank you for the compliment! .

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