best way to mend a broken heart?

amar · Post by **amar** » Tue May 17, 2005 2:33 pm

she works on the same ward as i do. i see her every day.

anniemcu · Post by **anniemcu** » Tue May 17, 2005 2:37 pm

amar wrote:well, actually she was just right for me too.

All to often we *think* that things are "just right" when in fact they are way out of kilter and we just haven't come to grips with our own genuine wants, needs, limitations and the like.

*IF* you were really right for each other, you probably wouldn't be seeking salve for a broken heart.

The best thing you can do is learn from it for your own betterment. Be more honest (with others and with yourself), more keen on observing cues, more open to compromize. If you become a better person for it, you are less likely to lose again.

There is always hope. Again, go on living your life... *IF* you are really meant to be together, it will happen. If not, something even better will.

Hang in there, and keep repeating this mantra... "This too shall pass..."

Bloomfield · Post by **Bloomfield** » Tue May 17, 2005 2:43 pm

Coffee black, cigarettes,
start this day, like all the rest,
First thing every morning that I do,
is start missing you

Some broken hearts never mend,
some memories never end,
some tears will never dry,
my love for you will never die

Rendezvous in the night,
A willing woman to hold me tight,
But in the middle of love's embrace,
I see you're face

Some broken hearts never mend,
some memories never end,
some tears will never dry,
my love for you will never die

jsluder · Post by **jsluder** » Tue May 17, 2005 2:46 pm

anniemcu wrote:Hang in there, and keep repeating this mantra... "This too shall pass..."

That's what my brother-in-law said about his kidney stones, but they had to operate anyway.

amar: "Time heals all wounds." Or is it, "Time wounds all heels"? I can never keep that straight...

Jennie · Post by **Jennie** » Tue May 17, 2005 2:47 pm

But don't move on and feel better right away. Take time to savor sadness and just to feel how you feel right now.

One day you'll be able to look back on this time. While you're in it, though, be gentle with yourself. A broken heart is a trauma like any other.

Take care.
Jennie

emmline · Post by **emmline** » Tue May 17, 2005 2:48 pm

1. I don't know. Sometimes you have to live with it.
2. Chocolate.
3. Time.

Tony · Post by **Tony** » Tue May 17, 2005 3:04 pm

amar wrote:she works on the same ward as i do. i see her every day.

Try hipnosis...
let me know if it works.

Chang He · Post by **Chang He** » Tue May 17, 2005 3:05 pm

I've found time is the only sure cure...sorry though, it definitely isn't fun. But to be more happy in your misery, you should listen to Elliott Smith...good stuff for broken hearts.

Post by **Nanohedron** » Tue May 17, 2005 3:59 pm

Time, Amar...time. I know all too well. Sorry about the bad turn of events.

MarcusR · Post by **MarcusR** » Tue May 17, 2005 4:06 pm

Amar, you need a beard. Thats it!

Bloomfield, got the abc for that tune?

Cheers!

/MarcusR

dfernandez77 · Post by **dfernandez77** » Tue May 17, 2005 4:27 pm

anniemcu wrote:Hang in there, and keep repeating this martini...

I like this advice (excuse the editorial license).

Seriously, get together with a group of your best friends who will indulge the following:
1. Partake of a favored vice (2 fingers Tullemore Dew chased with a pint of Draught Stout works for me);

2. CRY very deeply out loud and all your friends will try to rub your shoulders and say "It will be ok." at the same time - LAUGH.
3. Repeat #1
4. Play a card game like UNO where you can torment and abuse your friends without causing physical harm, and LAUGH very deeply.

5. Wake up the next morning and break your fast with ibuprofen and gatorade.

6. Smile and appreciate that you have good friends with lots of love and emotional duct tape for your broken heart.

7. Try to be accepting and patient.

The pain passes with time and you will love again.

gonzo914 · Post by **gonzo914** » Tue May 17, 2005 4:39 pm

Since You've Been Gone

Since you've been gone
Well, I feel like I've been chewing on tinfoil
Since you've been gone
It's like I got a great big mouthful of cod liver oil
Oh well, I'm feelin like I stuck my hand
Inside a blender and turned it on
You know, I've been in a buttload of pain
Since you've been gone

(Since you've been gone)
I couldn't feel any worse if you dropped
A two-ton bowling ball on my toes
(Since you've been gone)
It couldn't hurt any more if you shoved
A red-hot cactus up my nose

Since you've been gone
Well, it feels like I'm getting tetanus shots every day
Since you've been gone
It's like I've got an ice cream headache that won't go away
Ever since that day you left me
I've been so miserable, my dear
I feel almost as bad as I did
When you were still here

Post by **Nanohedron** » Tue May 17, 2005 4:39 pm

Yes, definitely hang with your friends even if you don't quite feel up to it. Just be yourself.

jsluder · Post by **jsluder** » Tue May 17, 2005 5:02 pm

Nanohedron wrote:Yes, definitely hang with your friends even if you don't quite feel up to it. Just be yourself.

Form an outlaw band... rob banks, hang with your friends...

Joseph E. Smith · Post by **Joseph E. Smith** » Tue May 17, 2005 5:32 pm

Take some time to be really GOOD to yourself. Go hiking, biking or sit down with a really good book. You are going to think about the relationship a lot, but finding gentle distractions will aid in the healing process.