Grouping homosexuals and pedophiles together is a common practice that people who hate homosexuals like to promote. There is no correlation between homosexuality and pedophilia. Members of NAMBLA are not homosexuals. They are pedophiles. Every homosexual I know abhors NAMBLA. (I know hundreds - I'm from New York City -
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The overwhelming majority of pedophiles prey on children of the opposite gender, or on children of either gender. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with this crime.
If lobbying to be treated with dignity, respect and fairness is an "agenda," I fully support that agenda. I predict that in 20 or 30 years, those people and politicians who currently speak out against gay rights will be looked upon with the same embarassment, disbelief and horror that those who fought to keep the south segregrated in the '50's and '60's are looked upon now.
Marriage seems to me to be a seriously ailing, if not dying, institution. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Something like 75% of married people have violated their wedding vows with affairs. A huge percentage of children are born out of wedlock (I'm thinking I read 30%, but not sure if that's correct). People are getting married later and later in life, if at all. So I don't buy the argument that allowing gay marriages will somehow demean the institution of marriage. It may even breathe some new life into the institution of marriage.
An alternative to allowing gay marriages could be that the benefits which corporations and the government allow to married people be taken away. I think it's only fair. Why should my company pay medical benefits for my wife if they don't have to pay them for a gay employee's life partner? Why should my wife and I be allowed to pay taxes at a lower rate because of our partnership when a neighboring couple doesn't have the same privilige? Does it sound preposterous that these benefits be taken away from me? Well, it sounds just as preposterous to me that gay couples don't enjoy them.
As far as the churches go, my feeling is that any church that discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation is no different than a church that discriminates on the basis of race or gender. It's deplorable. The government hasn't done anything because of our long time principle of the separation of church and state, but I wouldn't be surprised if loopholes were found at some point in the future, if churches continue to refuse to end discrimination. Pressure could be put on churches by revoking their tax exemptions, for example. At this point that's more likely to come as a result of discrimination against women, simply because women are a federally protected group.
I think Jim's idea that churches will change from within is the more likely route that things will take, though. Most Christian churches I know of are concerned with being Christian, and eventually they will find a way to extend Christian charity to groups that they currently exclude. You will find justification in the bible for accepting all kinds of people. Christians will find it in their hearts to extend that acceptance to homosexuals.
I'm (just barely) old enough to remember the Latin mass, and I'm certain I'll live to see women as Catholic priests. I've already seen married Catholic priests (Episcopal converts whose marriages continue to be recognized). So I don't doubt that churches can change. And these changes won't kill the churches, nor will it cause lasting harm to them. Hey, think how much better your choir will sound when your church starts being more accepting to homosexuals!
I get pretty emotional about this because I've lost a good number of gay friends to AIDS, alcohol and drug addiction and suicide, and I think that many of these deaths could have been prevented if society didn't condone making life miserable for homosexuals. If you ever witnessed the misery of a teenaged boy struggling with his sexuality against the pressures of his parents, siblings, friends, church, employer and government, or the pain of a girl who turned to drugs to combat the lonliness she faced when her parents threw her out of their house because of her sexuality, you would never suggest that homosexuality is a "lifestyle choice." Being hated and ostracized, and suffering through self loathing at the same time is not something a person chooses. They go through it because they have no choice. I refuse to believe that acknowledging, accepting and welcoming these people would amount to spitting in the face of God. I believe that rejecting them in God's name is closer to spitting in God's face.
With all due respect to those who disagree,
Jim