Cathie (Kathy?) McFadden once wrote wondering if women might need a different arrangement of bellows/bags/etc. due to physiological differences - longer arms, wider hips, all that
type stuff.
She didn't write it here, it was for the Piper's Review in the 80s. I seem to remember it being printed out on one of those dot matrix printers, too...hrmm, more misuse of grey cells.
So I'd take that into consideration, trying longer blowpipes and scthuff. Pipes should fit the user as much as possible, the blowpipe is easy to modify - get some more washer/dryer rubber tube, most makers use that stuff.
Don't bother with a reed that's too hard for you, though. Get a better one made if you can't modify it.